How to help people without giving a dime.

Sometimes you look around you with that mind to help people but then get discouraged, asking

yourself, "where do I start from?" You try to give money to someone along the street and you

see someone else come running after you. Some people get tired of this and they give up

helping, but that's only when material things are involved.

Rending help is an act of kindness not limited to a particular set or type of people, it is also not

limited to money or material things alone, if it is, then that's just a stereotype. Everybody has

something free to give to someone else, you just have to be willing. It takes nothing from you, it

only makes you a better person.

Now what are these things?

_SMILE: How does this sound? Out of context? No. As little and irrelevant this might be, it is

important, not to you but to someone else. It can help people go through bad days, or just a

second of self condemnation. Smiling is known to be able to spread like a virus. And it also

makes you look more attractive.

_FORGIVENESS: I know this work is themed how to help people, but in more sense you do

yourself more favor when you forgive, you free yourself from that burden that weighs your

heart down. This has an effect on the person you're forgiving, you act positively when it is

expected to do otherwise, some people have problems saying sorry but when you give the

prompt by forgiving, it's easier for them. You train or change this person through this act, you

also train yourself by being understanding and less quick to take offense.

_LISTENING EARS: This can go a long way, just sitting and listening to someone ranting about

how bad their day went or just something else is an act of kindness, people don't see it but it is.

There's something in everyone's heart that needs to come out once in a while that's why there

are counselors and therapist, you can be someone's unpaid therapist, you don't have to say

anything, just listen and maybe give 'hmmn' or nod in reply at Intervals.

Listening is not about you, it's about the other person, and you're going to have to sacrifice

your sleep, your time, comfortability, but that's what helping is about, not always but

sometimes and you can always sleep after listening. The best you can do while listening is to

stay quiet, you can nod in response or just give a "hmmn" you don't want to pass yourself out

as a bad listener. Just your presence and interest gives a lot more comfort than your words,

sometimes.

_ATTITUDE: Your attitude towards people matters of course! A lot of times you think people

don't notice you, that's a big lie, they do, you find out when there's a topic about you and people

come out to give their words, wonder what they'd say about you? You'd be surprised.

Your attitude is who you portray yourself to be, your reception. Snobish, lousy, rude…? All these

matters, and if you're not receptive enough, people can't come to you for help, they just hate

you from afar without getting to know you first.

_COMPASSION: This is when you recognize people's suffering and you go out to help them,

physically, emotionally, mentally. What's it going to take? Your time and that's fine, 'cause your

time might have just saved someone else's life, when people spend money to save lives. All you had to give was your time.

There are other simple ways to help people. Help someone carry a bucket of water up the stairs,

help an old woman cross the street. While people pass this out as Moral, it is, and also is an act

of kindness. But you see, even this "morals" only few people keep to it. You can help people by

giving a good compliment on something they feel bad about.

Scenerio:

"I hate my dress" Jane complains

"Oh, I think it's pretty. The pink stands out, it makes you look taller and attractive, your smile

makes it perfect, and the way it falls over your hip makes you look hot, and your shoes, damn!"

This is quiet funny, even to me. But, even though you think the opposite, you've just upgraded

Jane's confidence about her dress.

You can help people in these little ways people don't count as important. In this way, you

influence people around you.

Those who show Mercy will receive Mercy, you will always have something to give. Not

everything is material. Find a place for others in your heart and you'll see these things comes to you easily.